Before nap time mornings have been fun lately, I wish I was more physically capable but we make do and have some good outdoor adventures
Before we had Wes, Torrey and I had a pretty flexible lifestyle. Since we run our own business our hours were ours to make. We worked a lot but we were constantly waking up too late and going to bed too late. Kicking ourselves for waisting mornings, being slow to get things done or procrastinating too much.
I think something unexpected with having a child has been our structure. We could be more loose parents but we aren't. Having a daily structure and routine for Wes works for us and him and leads to a good sleeper and a most of the time pretty happy kiddo. (Newborn-hood is a whole different ball game, structure didn't start to set in for us until 7 months or so)
Just this morning I said to Torrey "I do more before 9 am than I used to do in a half day". Having kids changes things and some people are afraid of that but I am so thankful for these changes, its been so good for us. As this new baby approaches I am taking time to enjoy the routine we have now and looking forward to a new routine in...um...6-8 months that will work for us as well. I hope and pray that this new baby doesnt make too much of a difference in Wes's daily schedule. If I can keep him on track I hope that it will make everything smoother. I feel like I dont really know what I am getting into other than it might be a bit messy for a while!
Early morning bagels at the beach
1. I wake up early and get stuff done: Wes is up between 6 and 7:30 most mornings. Waking up for a cute little human is much easier than waking up for no one but yourself. He is READY TO GO and I have to be too. Once we had a few months of this structure and I was getting decent nights sleep it became something I am very thankful for. I love getting so much done before noon!
2. I cook : Before Wes Torrey did all the cooking. I knew how to cook but he was better at it and I didn't really like doing it. Now I am the one who provides breakfast/lunch and prep or cook some of the dinners for our family. I get the meal plan organized, do the grocery shopping and cook the more simple/basic stuff. I have learned to love providing food for my son (even if he doesn't always LOVE eating it) and myself. I eat on a more regular schedule and we eat out way less.
3. I go to bed early: So with this pregnancy its easy to call it a night at 9 and go off to bed. I am usually asleep by 10-10:30. As a non pregnant person I sometimes struggle with early nights and bouts of insomnia. Most of the time we are stuck here past 7pm anyways. Unless we get a sitter or just one of us goes out, we have to stay home. So this aids in the easy routine.
4. I am more productive in my 'child free time': I know I only have a few hours a day where I am not responsible for another human being. Nap time, after bed time and my work days. So if something is looming or I am getting ready for a show I buckle down better. Also with more 'breaks' that are forced because of taking care of Wes or doing family things I don't get sick of my job as much. I long to sew and I long to get to work and those days are so much more appreciated. I didn't truly realize how much I love my job and what I got out of it until I had a child. This will take a big hit when this baby comes but since my sewing room is at home I am hoping to still be able to find pockets of time to work, we will see!
5. No boredom: Pre-baby Torrey and I would sometimes feel antsy and bored in our evenings. Not wanting to spend money on going out but also sick of the same old TV routine. I think boredom is way less common now. Spending lots of time one-on-one with a child/baby can sometimes be called "boring" or have "boring" parts but I really think people are describing it wrong. I think they just get lonely. Wes is tons of entertainment and not boring at all, but its not the same as adult interaction. When there is another adult around to accompany me, taking care of my child is never boring, so I know that its not him, its me. Its loneliness. I often think about that 'tribe' of the past, mothers, grandmothers, aunts and cousins all helping out to raise children.
6. Appreciate the little things: I appreciate my time away, I appreciate my time with my family, I appreciate my work time, I appreciate my running time, I appreciate my friend time, I appreciate my me time. I don't take things for granted as much.
I think its easy to think of our time before kids as "what did we do then?!" and "freedom!" but in reality this time is amazing in its own way and I really enjoy these unexpected perks of parenthood.
Oh and since Wes sleeps till 7 or so Torrey and I keep saying that we get to sleep in later NOW than we will when they are in school. Why oh why do schools start so early...blurgh.